Friday, January 12, 2018

Trust & Mother's Intuition

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This week has shown me so much goodness and joy alongside so many feelings I can't quite find the words for.

It was a week of great concern, heightened mother's intuition, and careful scrutiny, but it was also a sort of hovering cloud of anxiety coupled with great confidence that we, Rosalie's parents, knew exactly what was happening and what we needed to do (praise Jesus!). It's impossible to describe the kind of sustained, days-long adrenaline I felt while being totally at peace unless you've somehow experienced it, too. I imagine this circumstance full of confidence and peace amidst sincere worry for a child's well-being is only found through trusting in the Lord's goodness and presence in our lives.

Three & a half months ago I was very concerned that Rosalie, our daughter with hydrocephalus, could have a shunt infection or malfunction and we would have trouble detecting it. Now that we have lived through a few shunt-related scenarios I can see that despite some of the symptoms being subtle they are glaringly obvious to us as her parents.

When well-meaning, supportive friends told me to simply enjoy the long stretches of sleep Rosalie had 2 nights in a row I just knew I couldn't let my guard down. When Rosalie unexpectedly spat up in her car seat one day we could have written it off as normal baby behavior - but the Lord nudged my intuition to take note. When I studied her face during her play time and noticed some familiar bone plate ridges becoming less pronounced and her eyebrows looking more filled out my internal alarm system went off. It was so subtle no one but my husband and I could see it - and most of the signs can be misconstrued as "normal" baby behavior so our friends would be none the wiser...but we know her better than anyone.

This week we had a healthy reminder that WE are our daughter's most reliable day-to-day experts and biggest advocates. Yes, she is receiving excellent medical care and the problem we discovered with her shunt would have been detected at her follow-up with neurosurgery next week, but we caught it at home as soon as we possibly could, which ensured one week less of pain and potential complications for our child.

Long story short, my husband and I began to notice a slew of subtle symptoms that suggested her intracranial pressure was increasing (which is what happens with hydrocephalus when fluid begins building back up/not draining as efficiently as it should).

On Tuesday afternoon her increase in head circumference was slight, but enough for Michael and me to agree we could both see it. I called first thing Wednesday morning to request they look at her MRI scan from Monday; within 5 minutes I got a call back saying they reviewed her scan and bumped up our appointment with her neurosurgeon to the next day instead of having to wait another week for follow-up.

Thankfully this 2nd shunt Rosalie was given is programmable, which means there are several valve settings that can be changed without surgery via use of a specific, industrial strength magnet. Her neurosurgeon changed her shunt to a new valve setting and we'll be following up in about a week and a half, but Rosalie seemed to feel some relief a mere half hour after the adjustment - and in less than 9 hours we could visibly see some of the swelling from the fluid build-up going back down. Hopefully in a few days she'll be totally back to her normal self, but she is already well on her way!

Feeling happy, happy, happy less than 24 hours after her shunt reprogramming!

I'm so thankful that we have access to wonderful medical facilities and care for our little hydrocephalus warrior - and I'm grateful that as her parents we have apparently been given great knowledge and tools to help our daughter stay healthy and thriving. The Lord is slowly, continually revealing to me on this new journey as a special needs parent that He truly does equip the called, rather than only calling the equipped. 

If you have children it doesn't take a special needs child to teach you how to trust both the Lord and your gut, but in our case it certainly seems to be magnifying and enhancing it. As parents we cannot control what kinds of medical illnesses or conditions our children are born with or exposed to, but we can educate ourselves, prepare for what we are able, and simply trust that God will carry us through the rest. Again, He does not call the equipped - but equips the called. 

I hope and pray y'all can also find peace in trusting that the Lord will provide all the necessary tools to handle whatever it is He blesses and challenges you with. 

"Have I not commanded you? Be strong and courageous! Do not tremble or be dismayed, for the Lord your God is with you wherever you go."
Joshua 1:9

Wednesday, December 27, 2017

A "Shuntiversary!"

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It's been exactly a month since Rosalie's most recent brain surgery, which means today we are celebrating her 1-month "shuntiversary!"

Strangers stare because they don't know, but that bulge on her head is a lifesaving
piece of hardware for which we are thankful. 

We celebrated a 1-month shuntiversary with her first shunt, but before we could celebrate any additional shunt-related milestones she was back in the hospital due to shunt infection. On what would have been her 2-month shuntiversary she actually underwent surgery to place her new (second and current) shunt.

And we've made it a full month with no complications! This past month has been especially sweet in several other ways as well. All former positioning restrictions were lifted by her neurosurgeon, which means she can be worn in a baby carrier and sit/ride in a normal infant car seat and baby swing/bouncer/rocker without limitation (and I have finally been able to leave the house with all 3 kiddos)! Additionally, she made the transition to exclusive breastfeeding (a MAJOR victory I seriously doubted would ever come to fruition - more on that later)!!! Not to mention, she began smiling socially AND has discovered how to find and suck on her hands, which are both important neurological developmental milestones that wonderfully demonstrate that thus far she is developmentally on track (with the exception of having been born with a large/heavy head which of course was anticipated). I won't always share so many updates about Rosalie's progress on the blog (family and friends: that is what her Caring Bridge website is for, so let me know if you need the link!), but this has been a fantastic month with much to note and celebrate. In many ways Rosalie has been absolutely thriving this past month back at home. :)

Hooray!

I have eventual plans to write up a sort of FAQ about hydrocephalus & our little hydro warrior, but today I will answer one question - something a good friend happened to ask me this morning (and several others have asked as well).

Q: Ideally, how long will this shunt work for Rosalie?

A: Ideally, forever! Unfortunately, that is unlikely to happen because shunts are notorious for malfunctioning, needing to be either revised or replaced.

It is not unheard of for individuals born with hydrocephalus to undergo a number of brain surgeries in the double (sometimes triple) digits...which sounds extreme, but considering Rosalie already had 3 brain surgeries at 2 months old I can see how it isn't beyond the realm of possibility for her.

Still, we hope and pray that there will be no shunt infection this time around & that this shunt will give us the desired results Rosalie needs to have her hydrocephalus properly and safely managed. Please join us in praying these intentions! 

Rosalie's next MRI is in a couple weeks, which will reveal how this shunt is working for her (it has a different drainage speed than her first since the first one wasn't giving us the desired results regardless of the discovered infection). Please pray for positive results!

Happy shuntiversary, Rosalie! We hope & pray we get to celebrate many more!


"How cool that the same God who created mountains and oceans and galaxies looked at you and thought the world needed one of you, too."
-Anonymous

Friday, December 22, 2017

How Rosalie Got Her Name

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Recently my oldest child, Gabriel (age 4), was admiring and asking about his sister's Christmas stocking - which my talented older sister made and just mailed to us. That led to a nice little conversation about everyone's stockings and how they all have our first initials and a special crocheted image (an angel, a snowflake, a Christmas tree, etc.). Then, probably as an afterthought about initials and names, Gabriel looked at me and asked, "Mommy, does Rosalie have a Saint?"

Why, yes! Yes, she does! Which brings me to the topic at hand: how Rosalie got her name.

When we first shared Rosalie's name we got a lot of questions from various Catholic family members and friends about which patron Saint we were going for (St. Rose of Lima? St. Elizabeth of Hungary? St. Thérèse of Lisieux - because of her association with roses and nickname as The Little Flower?).

In truth, she is named after Mary, the mother of God. I see many of you virtually scratching your heads at that one, so bear with me!

First, let me back up and say that Michael and I always had a hard time agreeing upon names for girls (so we lucked out and had two boys first, ha). But, long ago we agreed that we liked the idea of choosing a Marian name without choosing the obvious "Mary." Early on in our married lives we agreed that "Maria" could be a good option. But, a few years ago when I shared that I loved the name "Maria Rose" it got shot down immediately when my husband responded with, "You mean like my co-worker, Maria Rose? No."

So, we were back to square one but by that time my paternal grandmother had passed away; her middle name was Rose and I loved the idea of somehow incorporating it into a baby name.

And there we remained, stuck without any further ideas for a long time (but this was amidst birthing another boy, so it was okay that we hadn't agreed on any girl names at that point).

Then, when Peter (our second born) was a baby we watched a show with a bit character named Rosalie. Rosalie! A beautiful, French variation of the family name "Rose" I had hoped to someday incorporate. I had never wanted to use Rose as a first name, but I loved the idea of Rosalie and Michael agreed. So, we tabled that conversation until it would someday become relevant.

When we discovered we were finally having a girl I asked Michael if he still liked the name. Despite the fact that he had completely forgotten ever liking the name in the first place, he quickly admitted he did like it now that I had brought it up. ;)

So, we agreed to pray about it. But there were two specific things I needed to figure out before I could fully settle on the name: 1) how I could tie it to Mary (a Marian name was very important to me) and 2) what liturgical feast day could be used as Rosalie's "name day" (in our family we celebrate our kids on 3 days: their birthdays, their baptismal days, and their "name" days - which are the liturgical feast days on which we celebrate the saints they are all named after).

The first part was easy. I knew that roses are often used to symbolize Mary, so after reading up on why exactly that is part of our understanding and tradition I felt a solid connection between the name Rosalie and the Blessed Mother. The second part was a bit more difficult, though.

There are several Marian feast days that we celebrate in the Catholic Church, all with a separate title. However, I wanted our daughter to have a name day that expressed the sentiment that Mary is considered a rose - the queen of the heavenly garden. That, or I reasoned that we could celebrate her name day on the feast of St. Rose of Lima (or someone similar that has to do with roses), but that didn't sit right with me - because if we weren't choosing Rosalie based on St. Rose then I didn't want that to be her feast day. So we kept praying for some time.

Then, one day in July I found myself alone in an exam room, waiting for a routine perinatology appointment. We had discovered our daughter's brain condition back in May and I had really wanted to pray the rosary ever since - but for some reason I had some block up that kept me from actually doing it...for days, weeks, and almost months. But, that morning as I waited in the quiet of that office I suddenly felt strongly compelled to pray the rosary. I knew in my heart that it was long overdue and the time was now. My boys were at home being watched by a friend and I would be waiting awhile longer for the appointment, so I had no distractions and nothing but time. No excuses.

Before I prayed the rosary, however, I was reading on my phone and stumbled upon something amazing: that very date (July 13th) was a Marian feast day celebrating the Blessed Mother under the title/nickname "Our Lady of the Mystical Rose."

There are so many Marian feast days, both well-known and obscure, that I previously had NO idea that specific Marian title even existed!!!

I immediately felt that I had received a divine answer to everything. We could name our daughter Rosalie with our holy mother Mary as her namesake AND she could have her own name day to celebrate - one that rightly expressed that Rosalie is named after Mary, the Mystical Rose in God's heavenly garden!

At that point I eagerly prayed the rosary, with the specific intention of asking Mary to make it clear to me whether or not I had found our daughter's name. The more I prayed, the more I felt myself being filled - even overflowing - with excitement, joy, peace, and an overwhelming sense that Mary had given me a big, resounding YES to the name Rosalie.

If you've ever been praying about a specific intention and felt an overwhelming sense that the Lord was speaking to you, then you'll understand how powerful and crucial that moment was for me in discerning our daughter's name.


So, on July 13, 2017 I became convinced that our daughter's name is Rosalie, but of course I encouraged Michael to keep praying about it. It was only a matter of time before he confirmed everything on his end.

Meanwhile, we had been searching hard for middle names and for the longest time only had one viable option. We loved it initially, but the more we prayed the less right the middle name felt. Then, one day I revisited our baby name lists (for the hundredth time) and there it was - Elisabeth. We had listed it as a possible first name we liked, but had somehow never considered it as a middle name. Literally as soon as I saw it printed on that list and combined it with Rosalie I felt like I had found THE right name. I promptly texted Michael to let him know I had thought of another name combination and asked if he had a preference between Rosalie _____ (the first middle name we picked) or Rosalie Elisabeth; he quickly responded by saying he liked and preferred Rosalie Elisabeth.

And the rest is history!

Of course we take into careful consideration the meaning of names as well. Rosalie is a French name meaning "Rose" and Elisabeth is a Hebrew name meaning "My God is an oath/oath of God" or "God is satisfaction/My God is abundance." 

Just beautiful.

Often people ask why we chose Elisabeth with an "s" and all I can say is...it just looks and feels right to us. We never even considered Elizabeth with a "z" - and I think the name Elisabeth looks so beautiful with the name Rosalie because of the aesthetic of each name having an "s." Additionally, when I look at the etymology of names I look at the language of origin. Lo and behold, "Elisabeth" is considered the Hebrew version, being derived from Elisheba - unlike "Elizabeth" which is Greek. Over the years I've realized that we have a subtle preference for Hebrew names, considering our sons both have at least one Hebrew name each - which is another reason Elisabeth probably felt right to us.

We never officially decided to use Elisabeth because of a particular saint, but we did it knowing we had some options. In my mind it always makes me think of Elizabeth from the New Testament - Mary's cousin and the mother of St. John the Baptist. However, a part of me likens it to St. Elizabeth of Hungary, who experienced a miracle of roses in her ministry to the poor. Either one would be a wonderful, saintly role model and I think Rosalie can decide for herself if she feels a connection to one above another as she grows.

And there you have it - the detailed explanation of how we came to have a Rosalie Elisabeth in our family. If you're curious to read about her brothers' names make sure you check out these posts from the archives:


"It's been an ugly day," she said. 
"Tell me something beautiful?"
And he said her name.
-Anonymous

Sunday, December 3, 2017

The Paradox

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I'm happy to report that our little Rosalie's recent surgery went well and 24 hours later she was cleared to come home (21 days after our ER trip due to her shunt infection). It has been a big adjustment having her home again, which means we still haven't fully figured out this family of 5 thing...but I'm thankful for being reunited so we can learn our new normal sooner than later!


This photo was taken on November 30, 2017. The calm before the (latest) storm. Since Thursday night I have called the on-call pediatric neurosurgeon multiple times and had an ER bag packed & ready to go at a moment's notice.

Thankfully (hopefully), I think what Rosalie is experiencing is mostly the normal neurological developmental phase known as the "purple period of crying" aka colic and we haven't yet hit a breaking point to suggest shunt issues. But since that day she absolutely refuses bottles - and at the time my milk supply was only enough for half of what she eats (a constant struggle as a result of so many hospital days since her birth), leading us to worry more each time she cries. Is she eating enough? Is there something wrong with her shunt? Is this just colic (and man, oh man, "just colic" is still quite the challenge in and of itself!)?

It took me a surprisingly long time to acknowledge and accept that we are now officially special needs parents. Really long. Like, embarassingly long. Until her recent hospital stay I only toyed with the idea, wondering if Rosalie really even falls into the special needs category (denial much?). But I finally accepted that no matter how you slice it, a hydrocephalus diagnosis requires special monitoring, regardless of how well Rosalie is doing. Even if Rosalie continues to be on track with her development there is no way to ignore that she has a brain condition that requires routine scans and regular appointments with specialists. And so, for the first time I have been deepening my previously shallow understanding of what it means to have a special needs kid.

It doesn't always mean that a child will have cognitive delays or physical delays (although that is often the case). But, it does mean that as parents we are always hypervigilant, scrutinizing each and every baby cry or movement, constantly discerning whether or not it is just normal baby stuff or if there is something bigger going on.

In our case it means having multiple numbers saved in my phone so I can contact whatever specialist I need if I ever get far enough past the hospital visits and recoveries to finally make it out of the house. It means having an "ER bag" packed by the coat closet - because I already have experience rushing Rosalie to the ER and have learned better what I could do to prepare.

It means following medical associations and foundations related to Rosalie's condition and joining parent support groups so I can arm myself with knowledge. It means a crash course and firsthand experience being my child's advocate - educating nurses about specific PT-given protocols for best shaping Rosalie's head, pushing the nurses to switch my daughter's room so she could have more eyes on her at all times, hounding each resident, PA, and attending physician with the same important questions to get the desired answers and results. It means being strong for my daughter, overcoming my natural discomfort for asking questions or making demands of strangers in order to protect and care for my child.

There is no doubt that becoming a mother has put me in plenty of situations throughout the years in which I had to overcome my own fears or discomforts in order to best care for or stand up for the needs of my kids - but being a special needs parent requires me to take my "mama bear" instincts to an entirely heightened, new level. 

I'd also be lying if I didn't admit that having a child with special needs has placed new demands and strains on my husband and me in our relationship - and I thank God that He has thus far granted us the graces needed to somehow find our way back to love and honest communication each time we begin to take out our stress and issues on one another.

There is no question that becoming special needs parents to our third child has been a unique, heavy cross that my husband and I are learning (and sometimes struggling) to carry together - but when I reflect on all the different types of crosses others carry I cannot help but feel that ours is a particularly beautiful one. After all, this cross comes with the best gift the Lord could possibly give us - a precious life to nurture and love! When I see that the reason for such a cross comes with having Rosalie in our lives that cross suddenly seems so light!

A couple of months into this journey and I feel like I've stumbled across the paradox of having a child with special needs: while it seems that the cross of constantly worrying about your child's medical health and safety and sometimes watching them struggle or suffer should be one of the heaviest crosses a parent can carry, it is surprisingly light precisely because our child and the love we have for them overshadows the rest and makes all the challenges worth it simply to have them in our lives.

Although I think St. Teresa of Calcutta said it far better:

"I have found the paradox, that if you love until it hurts, there can be no more hurt, only more love."


Rosalie, I will proudly carry this cross for you - and if it is my path to heaven then I cannot thank the Lord enough for making my path such an easy one. Because caring for you is one of the most simple, natural, joyful things in the world. You are made for big things and I'm humbled to have a part in your life's journey. Xoxo.

Saturday, November 25, 2017

That Newborn Smell

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You know, whenever people used to talk about that oh-so-good "newborn baby smell" I never fully understood what they meant. Baptism chrism oil smell? Sure (and I do love it so!). But the normal smell of newborn skin? I was a bit clueless. This is probably because my nursing babies were ALWAYS with me/on me/next to me - and it is difficult to fully appreciate a smell you're constantly surrounded by....

Then came Rosalie.

When she was in the NICU they gave me a small butterfly blanket to put inside my shirt and leave with her so she would be comforted by my smell, but because of the limited positioning we could hold her in after her brain surgery I did not yet fully know HER smell. Once we brought her home I quickly got to know all about her - but I still had no idea how she filled our house with her smell.

Then, after spending over 24 hours straight at the hospital for her recent ER trip and emergency surgery I went home to shower and get some things; I walked into our downstairs guest room where she and I had been sleeping and her scent completely wrapped itself around me, like a familiar blanket or favorite sweatshirt. 

I tried hard not to cry because suddenly - for the first time - I knew her smell and I missed it in ways that made my heart ache. I wanted so badly to be holding her in my arms, but she was back at the hospital.


Every day since then I have spent an average of 10 hours at the hospital (some days more, some days less) and the majority of that time is spent clutching her to my chest, smelling her forehead. Never before have I known so intimately the exact smell of one of my babies or cherished it so much.

If you are blessed to have a baby in your home, please give them a long hug - and don't forget to smell the top of their precious, little head. I pray that the day never comes that you first discover your baby's smell because they are no longer with you.

I'm so incredibly thankful that our dear Rosalie will soon be filling our home with her sweet smell once again! Please pray for her next shunt surgery to go smoothly on Monday morning - with NO infection this time!

"It's a funny thing coming home. Nothing changes. Everything looks the same, feels the same, even smells the same. You realize what's changed is you."
-F. Scott Fitzgerald

Friday, November 10, 2017

Back to life in the hospital....

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Unfortunately our 6-week-old hydrocephalus warrior has undergone a 2nd brain surgery far sooner than we ever imagined.

After a few good weeks at home, Rosalie began acting more fussy than usual for a couple days leading up to a breaking point early Wednesday morning when she became inconsolable and spiked a fever. Shunt issues are certainly on our radar & fortunately we had educated ourselves well enough on the signs of both shunt infection and shunt malfunction to know something could be seriously wrong. So, I rushed Rosalie to the ER. Her fever had increased her temperature to 101.3 degrees and they began the process of taking samples to check for infection. After speaking to her neurosurgeon they were instructed to transport Rosalie to Duke University Hospital so that she would have her usual specialists & they could tap her shunt to check for infection.

Long story short, I spent an entire day in the ER as Rosalie got an MRI, a shunt series of Xrays, & multiple cultures taken from bodily fluids which led us to discover that not only was a shunt revision necessary, but her shunt was infected & would have to be replaced.

Ready for surgery, waiting for her operating room.

Late Wednesday night (11/8) once the shunt infection was confirmed she was whisked away for surgery to immediately remove the infected shunt. They placed a temporary external draining system that will manage the cerebral spinal fluid (CSF) levels while she is shuntless; once antibiotics can flush out the infection throughout the next week or so then a new shunt will be placed.

This means that Rosalie will be in the hospital for at least a week, possibly longer depending on how long it takes for the infection to clear.

The risk of infection with Rosalie's brain surgeries is about 8-10% & we were well aware that after a shunt surgery the risk of infection is pretty high for the first few months, but we never imagined that Rosalie's very first shunt would become infected (her incision healed beautifully, so the cause is most likely that a tiny bit of skin flora got in during the surgery). It is not uncommon for children with hydrocephalus to experience multiple brain surgeries (in the double digits) to either revise or entirely replace shunts but we were hoping we might be some of the lucky ones that wouldn't need any additional surgeries - at least for a long time.

Rosalie's shunt removal surgery went well and her neurosurgeon is working hard with the infectious diseases team to help pinpoint exactly what types of bacteria are present in the CSF - so they can hone in on which antibiotics to continue with. 

She is being cared for in the pediatric "stepdown" unit, which is a less stressful environment than the intensive care nursery with a more intermediate level of care. She is hooked up to several monitors and is being watched around the clock, but thankfully the stepdown unit is a much more family-friendly place. We have a recliner, which allows us the option to stay overnight - and the unit has a parents' lounge, restroom, kitchenette, & even provides a shower stall with toiletries. We are allowed to have food and drinks & as a breastfeeding mom I am provided meals. So, we are able to stay in the unit with Rosalie with greater ease and comfort than her days in the ICN & for all of that we are grateful.

It is also worth mentioning that with this unforeseen emergency situation our local Catholic community has truly rallied around us, offering assistance with things like childcare until my mom can arrive, meals, having our groceries delivered(!), and providing much emotional and prayer support. We even have a friend that works at the hospital in pediatrics, so during his shift he brought me food right before Rosalie's surgery. Seeing a friendly face after a very long, isolating day filled with doctors and nurses (while my husband unexpectedly worked from home & cared for our boys) was a very welcome and much-appreciated encounter. I cannot express how blessed we have been by the people that we know here & I constantly thank God for leading us to this place - a place where Rosalie has such incredible medical care & we are surrounded by such good, faithful friends that go above and beyond supporting us during a crisis.

I wish that I could say more, but right now is a busy time and I need to get ready to head back to the hospital once my mom arrives to take care of our 4 and 2 year old boys.

So content after surgery because she was able to eat for the first time
in nearly 24 hours!

Thank you again for all of your prayers & support. Our little hydrocephalus warrior is so strong and handling all of this very well, but please pray for the infection to heal ASAP so she can get her new shunt and come home soon!

“One of the marvelous things about community is that it enables us to welcome and help people in a way we couldn't as individuals. When we pool our strength and share the work and responsibility, we can welcome many people, even those in deep distress, and perhaps help them find self-confidence and inner healing.”
-Jean Vanier, Community And Growth

Monday, October 16, 2017

Introducing Rosalie Elisabeth!

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After a long-anticipated arrival, I am happy to officially introduce our sweet Rosalie Elisabeth! She was born on Monday, September 25th, at 9:05am and is officially 3 weeks old today.

In her daddy's arms shortly after birth
~36 hours old, after her first bath in preparation for surgery

As you can see, Rosalie's hydrocephalus caused her head to be very large/swollen at birth (these particular photos hardly do it justice). Then, at 2 days old Rosalie had brain surgery to drain the excessive amount of cerebral spinal fluid (CSF) that had accumulated throughout the pregnancy & to place a shunt, which will continue to manage her hydrocephalus. 

At birth Rosalie was 20 inches long and weighed 8lbs 10oz, but over a pound of her weight came from the extra CSF in her brain. Shortly after surgery she weighed about 7 lbs 5 oz. Additionally, her head circumference at birth was about 46cm and after surgery it was 39cm. It continued shifting between 37-39cm in the following days and probably will for some time as her bone plates settle and her fontanelles eventually close. 

To say that Rosalie (and Michael and I) have been through a lot of changes in the past 3 weeks would be a severe understatement. 

Rosalie spent 11 days in the intensive care nursery and I'm pretty sure those days were both the longest & shortest of our lives. I have so many thoughts about having a NICU baby, but for now I'll simply say that I'm thankful we have moved beyond that chapter of our lives and can now be together as a family at home. Her adoring big brothers are thrilled as well!




It is crazy to think that today, October 16th, was Rosalie's actual due date because I cannot wrap my head around what these past few weeks would have been like if we had not yet seen or held Rosalie, or lived through all that we have experienced with her already. 

As soon as we learned about Rosalie's hydrocephalus diagnosis I took great comfort knowing that her due date fell on the feast of St. Gerard, the patron saint of expectant mothers known for working miracles for mothers and babies in dangerous pregnancy and/or labor situations. However, I'm grateful that Rosalie was not born on this day - because a neurosurgeon made it clear to us months ago that not only would the severity of the swelling in Rosalie's head require a C-section, but it would also require her to get a shunt as soon as possible...which led to her birth being scheduled for the very day she reached full-term (37 weeks).

Of course we'll never know if those 3 weeks would have made a difference in regards to Rosalie's hydrocephalus and its impact on her brain, but we (along with her medical specialists) feel strongly that it very well could have. 

Rosalie's MRI at birth showed a head so filled with fluid that you could barely see ANY of her greatly-compressed brain matter. However, about a week after surgery (and relieving the extreme pressure from her brain) her MRI showed how beautifully her brain had been "decompressing" or "expanding," which is a very, very promising thing in regards to her future cognitive and physical development because it appears that the corpus callosum is the only brain structure that did not form (a common occurrence with hydrocephalus). Had we waited another 3 weeks her brain may never have decompressed as much as it did...and there is always the chance that her brain's lateral ventricles could have been so swollen she might not have made it....

In short, we are so grateful that our daughter has access to such excellent medical care; we are surrounded by intelligent doctors that have given Rosalie a very bright start & we are thrilled that her surgery has been successful!


Our journey with hydrocephalus has hardly begun and there are still many unknowns, but it is an exciting time because it means that - after what felt like an agonizing number of months of anticipation and uncertainty - life with Rosalie Elisabeth here in our arms is well underway. :) 

To all of you that have been following Rosalie's story and praying for her all these months: I cannot thank you enough. May God bless you, because your prayers have greatly blessed our family and especially our little girl. We truly could not have gotten through the pregnancy as we did without your prayer support. 

"Before you were here we dreamed of you, we imagined you, we prayed for you. Now that you are here, we hope for you, we love you, we thank God for you."
-Anonymous